Stealthy Techniques That Grab Your Kids Attention and Respect!
In this book except, author and hypnotherapist Carl Allen Schoner discusses stealthy techniques that grab your kids attention and respect!
/Books News Articles/ - LOS ANGELES, CA, March 01, 2008 -- In this except, author and hypnotherapist Carl Allen Schoner discusses stealthy techniques that grab your kids attention and respect!
In the following paragraphs I will give an example of a non-traditional form of hypnosis designed to grab the attention of just about anyone in any situation, although I find this technique particularly good advice for every parent who has ever had trouble conversing with teenage children while sitting at the dinner table.
I often engaged my own children using a stealth hypnotic technique, which simply involved bringing some little bit of information to the dinner table that I knew would capture their attention and acceptance when properly presented. One of the best examples I can think of at the moment was when I used a list of oxymoron phrases that I found on the World Wide Web. After dinner, I pulled the list from my pocket and opened our discussion. "Does anyone know what an oxymoron is?" I questioned.
"No," came the first, terse reply.
"It's two connected words with opposing meanings," I added.
"Oh."
A moment of silence followed.
"Like positively undecided," I offered.
"Ohhh...!" my daughter said. I had her attention.
"Or small crowd!" I tossed in.
"How about rap music?" my son questioned jokingly. I now had his attention.
"Right!" I replied.
"Or how about almost perfect?" my wife interjected, and I now had her attention.
"Yeah!" everyone agreed.
"Or safe sex!" my 12 year old daughter squealed.
We stopped to look at her and ponder that last offering. Since my goal from the beginning was to use this little exercise as a way to spark a deeper, more meaningful dialog, this pause was exactly the signal I needed. "Let's talk about that for a minute," I said.
I had captured their attention and acceptance. They were hooked, and for the next 2 hours we analyzed and discussed the meanings of approximately 50 oxymoron phrases. It was a great family activity, it improved their understanding of some of the paradoxes that we encounter in life, and it also improved their vocabulary. More importantly, though, it brought our family together for 2 hours in an open, honest, intimate discussion of some very important issues facing teen-agers today, including "safe sex," and in each case I was able to interject some philosophical ideas of my own, through simple suggestion. This is because when they experienced the "ah-ha!" phenomenon that comes with the realization of the meaning of an oxymoron, their minds were left open to suggestion. Nobody could argue with my suggestion that "There is no such thing as safe sex; all sex has consequences," because they now realized the truth of these statements. If, instead, I had simply sat down at the dinner table and announced "I want to talk about the dangers of sex," chances are my children's critical, judgmental conscious minds would have closed up like clamshells with defensive thoughts such as, "He's going to lecture us on morals again!" or, "What does he know about what my generation is doing today?"
I left the dinner table knowing that the meaning of the word "oxymoron" and my own subtle parental teachings of that night are now and forever linked by association and forever embedded in my children's subconscious minds. I got through to them, and that is all I wanted to accomplish. They may not embrace all of my opinions, but they will never forget the conversation of that night, or the things that we learned together. This is an example of what I call "stealth hypnosis."
All of us slip into varying stages of stealth hypnosis every day. From the moment we get out of bed in the morning, until we return to bed at night, and even throughout the night while we sleep. We are continually transcending various stages of mental awareness as our brainwaves move from one frequency to another. Most of the time we are totally unaware of this process when it happens, and indeed, we may be quite surprised when we catch ourselves making the transition. We may be routinely driving our car on the freeway, entertaining a daydream, staring blankly into space, totally unaware that we have missed our off-ramp, when we suddenly "wake up" in the midst of a transitional state of mind, and realize we are not in Wal-Mart anymore. We are surprised and sometimes confused by this awareness. Still, there will have been hundreds of other transitions during the day that completely slipped our detection.
The point is this: you do not need a formal induction to reach a hypnotic state. You may need some guidance to help you learn to recognize the various states of awareness, but once you are able to do this, it will then be possible for you to move between these states by simply closing your eyes and "going" to the level you desire. While the power of hypnosis is often attributed to the hypnotist, the truth is that it is always the individual who controls the hypnotic state. Like Dorothy in the "Wizard of OZ," you have always had the power within you! Most of us simply don't realize this until someone else shows us the way!
You can read about these techniques and many others presented by the author in his book "Dream Psycles - A New Awakening in Hypnosis" which you can preview at the author's websites:
http://www.lulu.com/carl-schoner
http://www.geocities.com/dreampsycles
http://www.cafepress.com/dream_psycles
http://www.trafford.com/robots/04-0177.html
About the author: Carl Allen Schoner holds a degree in behavioral science and is a certified clinical hypnotherapist. As a gifted artist and author his articles, cartoon, and illustrations have appeared in many prestigious publications such as Consulting Magazine, The California Law School Journal, Chess Life Magazine, and The Saturday Evening Post.
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